posted October 04, 2002 05:12 PM               

As far as we all know, he is not gay. He has a girlfriend at the present time. Even though he keeps his personal life behind closed doors, fan's know he's had girlfriends throughout his life. If you follow some of the posts in the message board you will find links to fan web-sites that contain interviewes and articles that would give you an idea of what kind of person he is.

posted October 04, 2002 06:19 PM               

also, IF duncan was gay its not like our society has grown enough in its acceptance of the gay community to accept a romantic singer/songwriter as a gay man talking about his male partners. therefore, duncan would have to keep it on the down low in order to be sucessful and its the AMERICAN PUBLIC'S fault. hopefully at some point (i am sure i will be DEAD by then) homosexuality will be as normal as heterosexuality and no one will think twice of it.

as for nothing being public about a girlfriend or pics or whatever, good for duncan. its hard to keep your privacy in a public profession. i have always told my husband if his band makes it big that i am to be referred to as his wife, no name, no pictures, no nothing. i want to be able to go to pottery barn or whatever and not have to worry about it. there's something to be said about anonymity!

p.s. by the way, i am NOT offended by the question, just felt like getting on my soap box!

[This message has been edited by shillbilly (edited October 04, 2002).]

posted October 05, 2002 11:41 AM               

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Originally posted by sincerechic:
It is disenchanting to know that most people see only with their eyes and not with their hearts. For only the heart gives us an opportunity to experience unconditional love.

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posted October 06, 2002 07:51 PM               

My personal opinion, as well as that of my boyfriend, dad, friend, and others, is that Duncan is something other than hetero...

posted October 07, 2002 11:22 AM               

And, if anyone here things that by acknowledging that big 'ol pink elephant in the room is disrespectful, don't you think you could be making too much of this? None of us would even had registered on this site if we didn't find the man fantastic for one reason or another, so the "love him for who he is" is a moot point. The man sings haunting love songs - why should chatting about the substance behind them be so terribly wrong? I don't see anyone here admiring him any less for being either gay or straight.

posted October 07, 2002 12:38 PM            

To me though it's more fun to wonder than it is to know everything. His songs seem to be about women. I wish some of his writing would be a little more ambiguous but who am I to say.

I hope he keeps writing and singing these wonderful haunting songs.

I love you Duncan!

posted October 09, 2002 12:41 AM               

But as everybody has said, his sexual preference will not change the way i love his music

posted October 09, 2002 09:45 PM               

Yes, I've kinda wondered, too.

For the longest time, it seems that many of my favorite artists are either gay or just plain overly sensitive (Michael Stipe of R.E.M., Robert Smith of the Cure, Duncan, Matthew Sweet, Johnny and Robby of the Goo Goo Dolls, the guys of Travis, etc).

As we all have been indirectly taught, male over-sensitivity often borders on femininity. However, as a heterosexual, I still proudly embrace each of the above-mentioned artists, although several of them (Duncan included) aren't exactly a hit with my guy friends (most of whom are too much into the likes of Eminem & Nickelback to pay a nevermind to true art).

Do I care whether Duncan is gay or not? Abso-friggin'-lutely not. As long as he forever continues on with his beautiful music (that is, until his fingers get too withered and old to pluck a guitar), he can be as gay (or as straight, in which my own opinion he is) as he wants to be.

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Matthew M.

"...All you need is love, ya da da da da..."

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posted October 13, 2002 02:42 PM               

And hands off Trent Reznor.

posted October 13, 2002 05:10 PM               

Rufus is known. I know many people on the board are fans. He was played on mtv for a while. But then that boyband thing kicked off. Both his albums are critically aclaimed. He got a lot of good press and a lot of video play for doing the I Am Sam sdtrk by covering "Across the Universe"

posted October 14, 2002 11:09 AM               

...I may be alone on this (and I do believe I'll get some flak for this comment), but I think Rufus' cover version of 'Across the Universe' is so bland and annoying. His voice on that track (one of my favorite Beatles songs) literally makes my skin crawl. Stick with either the original or Fiona Apple's superb take on it (matches the original in my opinion)

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Matthew M.

"...Nothing's gonna change my world..."

posted October 15, 2002 09:19 PM               

What I am wondering is how this whole thing got started? Like what made some of you start thinking that Duncan was gay... I am just wondering because someone in my family asked me this very question because they said that his voice, in an interview, "sounded gay". Go figure.

posted October 16, 2002 04:42 PM               

anyways, i guess if i'm gonna try to stay on topic for this thread, yeah, what is up with thinking he's gay just because he's soft-spoken, well-mannered, and can dress himself? good grief....

posted October 17, 2002 12:55 AM            

Duncan mentions his girlfriend towards the end of the Q&A; session so scroll towards the bottom for it. They do an awful job transcribing.